Quinn: When you ask someone how they are doing, do you really mean it?

When you ask someone how they are doing, do you really mean it? When you answer someone back how you are doing, are you really telling the truth? We live in a society of social networks, with Twitter pages and Facebook, and that’s fine, but we have contact with our work associates, our family, our friends, and it seems like half the time we are more preoccupied with our phone and other things going on instead of the actual relationships that we have right in front of us. Hopefully, people can learn from this and try to actually help if someone is battling something deeper on the inside than what they are revealing on a day-to-day basis.

— Former Cleveland Browns quarterback Brady Quinn in the wake of a murder-suicide involving his teammate Jovan Belcher. Quinn led the Kansas City Chiefs to a win and provided one of the more well-thought postgame quotes in recent history, extending well beyond the numbers and the final score of what is ultimately just a game.

  • Damage

    Considering we are slowly turning into “Wall-E” by the minute, interesting narrative from BQ there.

  • stryker1121

    Quinn is right – for all the ways we’re able to connect, social media can ironically be very isolating. Nothing beats a phone call or face-to-face interaction.

  • Harv 21

    of course Quinn is right. But feel compelled to point out that virtually all of this storyline has been about the personal demons and suicide of a pro athlete. The Chiefs need to remind their players about the player’s murder victim. The story and player quotes would certainly mention her if she had had been a Chiefs employee. The girlfriend’s family is witnessing an outpouring of sympathy for the player and virtually no mention of her.

  • Dreamy *and* deep. Damn, Brady.

  • woofersus

    I thought of this too. I understand the people being interviewed had a relationship with the player and not his girlfriend, and I’m sure he was battling some demons, but there’s a lot of sympathy and sadness over that while ultimately the guy murdered his girlfriend. I have to give props to Deion Sanders for last night specifically talking about the young woman’s family and their loss and promising prayers for them.

  • Jeff Moore

    I agree that the killer is getting all the attention, and it stinks. But I don’t think Quinn was just talking about his teammate here. The “demons” that Belcher was batteling caused him to kill his girlfriend. Furthermore, Quinn is saying that it is our entire society’s fault. With the rapid development of personal technology and social media we are spending more time looking at a computer or cell phone than an actual human being. It’s a flimsy substitute that marginalizes real intimacy in relationships. Couple that with our increasing desensitvation to violence and our ever increasing violent society and you have a world that has forgotten how to deal realistically with real relationship trouble and people who don’t know how to recognize troubled friends and relatives until it is too late. This incident is being blamed on the gun by more than a few public figures now. It is always easy to blame the symptom of the problem, especially when you are part of the cause.

  • NeedsFoodBadly

    For what it’s worth, at yesterday’s game, the Chiefs organization asked for a moment of silence for victims of domestic violence, not for Belcher himself.

  • Harv 21

    didn’t know they did that. That’s sensitive and appropriate, and tough to do right on short notice when there’s a tendency to protect your own first. Kudos to them.

  • brownsbacker

    Too bad he sucks at football. Every other aspect of him screams franchise quarterback. Right Phil Savage? But in all seriousness, well said by Quinn

  • Yup

    Didn’t suck yesterday. Played fantastically…

  • mgbode

    needed to complete nearly 83% of his passes to get his YPA over 8. Let’s not go crazy here. But, let’s leave the play-driven focus to the game threads this week.

    his words here are on point. kudos to Quinn (and Crennel) on being able to stand and say things well in a horrible situation.